Wednesday, February 27, 2019

Maryjane & Barbara Ann

Maryjane is the oldest child of James and Mary Joseph, she is a good person, just feisty, non-conforming, outspoken, a great cook, generous and a strong believer in treating people fair and honest. She is not a gossip, a deceit monger, a smart aleck or a know-it-all just a natural born woman whom God made, from her perspective.  Barbara Ann is the youngest, she is the quintessential definition of a daughter from their mothers' perspective, their father once called her "strange".

Therefore, the two of  these sisters are not very close. They would have to agree to disagree on most things to get along.  The way life has dealt with them is quite opposite of each other.  The youngest, is employed for the establishment after many years, is now a wife with one child. The oldest, once a wife has three children, is very independent in employment, nothing permanent, but able to survive, by taking the advantage gained by way of the establishment and her built-in ferocity necessary to stay whole minded. She is totally against violence. Her mother called her "rude".

From the age of 14 Marjane has let it be know what she will and will not tolerate in every way. Barbara Ann, not a word, more of a go-along-with attitude.  Their mother prefers Barbara Ann. Why?
Because she herself is more of a go-along. She loves her children, but she bends over backwards for Barbara Ann and stands cemented against Maryjane. Barbara Ann is always right, she make good money so she is the better of the two, from her perspective. She is the one she regards as a perfect person because of her life. She is committed to be a part of the life of Barbara Ann. Maryjane is no more than a good cook, and neither her nor her children can be trusted.

Mind you, Maryjane has done nothing to anyone, she is so honest, she would admit it if she had. Barbara Ann, has many secrets, she shares them with no one, perhaps her husband depending on what and when. She is agreeable with him, on his perspective of others and life in general. She isn't too self-confident and believes she needs him to guide her. She has trouble defining or explaining to understand why she is how she is except, when it involves her big sister.

Her and her mother are armed and ready to attack Maryjane, behind her back and with others. The two of them together could never win against her to her face. Their attempts have failed, leaving them both defeated and scared. They set blockades and defenses that totally enable them to continue to look at her in a negative way, when they both look up to her.  They feel her life is one they could not handle as well as she does, but at the same time in a negative way,everything is her fault in her life.

If there was a billion dollars to be had, neither the mother nor Barbara Ann would  let on at all to Maryjane, not that she would care, but how it would help her tremendously. They keep secrets between the two of them. Their mother would prefer that Barbara Ann and her husband take the whole lot because she would be able to reap the benefits in her own way, selfishly and wasteful.  The both of them, because they can, shop and buy things they already have over and over again, when they have their use of them, or way too many of them, they offer them to Maryjane.  Maryjane often excepts, out of need and appreciation. There mother once said, We give Maryjane our junk.

Their minds are set that she is not on their level because she has not been dealt their hand in her life, yet she is still on top, she is not what they imagine she is in their minds, but that is how they treat her. She has forgiven them all these years for that, but they still expect her to eat their failure. She is good enough for that, but nothing more.

Sisters, they do love one another, inside. Their mother would rather have one over the other be her caretaker, when it comes to that, however, the hand of God is the ruler. When ever Barbara Ann tries to express compassion or concern for her big sister, their mother sabotages it, being negative, unsupportive, untrusting, it is hatred, straight out  for her first born and her grandchildren, but "she can cook a mean pot of greens". Barbara Ann is silenced and agrees with her Mom, "she sure can".

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